It used to be some things made you
feel, at least, slightly ashamed. Living at home past your expiration
date, not having at least two kids by the age of 25, being unable to
drive a straight shift and being in a marriage where the woman made
Living at home appears to no longer
carry any stigma at all (maybe it's the economy and lack of high
paying jobs?), deciding to have kids later, or not at all, doesn't
raise many eyebrows and do they even make straight shifts outside of
high strung hot rods anymore?
And now, according to a story I read on
the Internet (so you know it's true), a wife out earning her
husband is something to not even be noticed.
This story came from The Daily Mail,
which is a British newspaper, so if you're a "America, #&*#yeah!" type person, you can discount what it says, but apparently
men in marriages where the woman makes more are called "purse-whipped." If you thought I was going to say something
else, go sit in the corner.
And it's not only money. This came
about, to my understanding, because a study showed more women than
men were graduating from college in both greater numbers and with
higher IQ's. Men quickly formed a group dedicated to the fact we
can still beat (most) of them in a fair fight, but it disbanded when
women we really wanted to impress called it stupid.
The story I read took the study
intensely serious and wondered if it meant the beginning of the end
for men. Would the American cowboy fade away? Would militaries
worldwide start looking for solutions where no one got hurt?
I could see, over many years, something
like this changing culture. Children have always grown up seeing the
father/male figure as the dominant one in the household, so they
carry that pattern into their own lives. Men are the providers and
women are the nurturers.
How would the world look in about 150
years, just enough time for male dominance to be forgotten? Would it
be a gentler place? Would sports be gone? Would trying to impress
other people be wiped from our DNA? Let's be honest, trying to
impress other people is almost all male.
Or would women, finally having the
power, simply become prettier versions of men? Would they try to rule
the world, make as much money as possible and drive 50 miles out of
the way because talking to a stranger is a fate worse than death?
Social change like this can take a
while, and I'm sure if it did look like women were becoming the
dominant gender, there would be plenty of people, including women,
fight against it. I've known women whose only goal in life was to
get a rich husband so they would have freedom to do whatever they
As for myself, the thought of women
making more money never has bothered me. I've told anybody who'll
listen that if the wife were to start making enough money to support
us both, I'd retire so fast your head would spin.
This could be due to the fact I grew up
in a mother only household and women being in control of the money
has never been a foreign concept to me. Or it could be due to my
Either way, things change as time goes
on. We tend to believe things have always been the way they are while
we're alive. Never mind that our time, even in a long life, is
short. What we know as the way it is matches what was here before we
came along, and it will be that way long after we're gone. Don't
try to tell us different.
The truth is the lives we now lead
would have been inconceivable just 100 years ago. To think everything
will now stay the same just because we're used to it is probably a
silly, and dangerous, way to live.
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